Bonding With Baby as Non-BIrthing PERSON
Bonding with a newborn is a special and important experience for both parents.
Remember that bonding is a gradual process, and each person's experience is unique. The key is to spend quality time together, respond to the baby's cues, and create a nurturing environment that fosters connection.
Below are ways non-birthing parents can bond with a newborn baby:
Skin-to-Skin Contact: Just like the birthing parent, a partner can also engage in skin-to-skin contact. Hold the baby against your bare chest, which helps in regulating the baby's temperature and promoting bonding.
Feeding Support: If the birthing parent is breastfeeding, partners can be actively involved in the process. This may involve helping with positioning, bringing the baby to the breast, or assisting with bottle feeding if formula or expressed breast milk is being used. Or, washing bottles and pump parts is an excellent way to support your partner.
Cuddling and Comforting: Hold and cuddle the baby frequently. Babies find comfort in the touch and smell of their caregivers. Use this time to talk or sing softly to the baby. Especially with a newborn, you’re not going to “spoil” the baby by holding them.
Diaper Changes: Diaper changing is an essential task, and it's an opportunity for bonding. Talk to the baby, make eye contact, and use the time to engage in positive interaction.
Reading Aloud: Even though newborns may not understand the words, they benefit from hearing the rhythm and tone of a caregiver's voice. Reading aloud is a wonderful bonding activity.
Baby Massage: Gently massaging the baby can be a calming and bonding experience. Use a mild baby lotion and stroke the baby's arms, legs, and back.
Babywearing: Using a baby carrier allows the partner to carry the baby while keeping their hands free. This closeness promotes bonding and allows the baby to feel secure.
Playtime: While newborns may not engage in structured play, they do respond to visual and auditory stimuli. Use soft toys, play gentle music, or make simple facial expressions to engage with the baby.
Taking Turns for Soothing: Share responsibilities for soothing the baby. Whether it's rocking, singing, or gentle patting, taking turns can strengthen the bond between both parents and the baby.
Participate in Parenting Tasks: Be actively involved in parenting tasks like giving baths, dressing the baby, and preparing for bedtime. These routines create a sense of security and routine for the baby.
Capture Moments: Take photos and videos of special moments. Documenting Baby's early days, especially in the tired newborn haze, will allow you to look back (soon!) and realize how much Baby has grown.
Attend Pediatric Appointments: If possible, attend pediatrician appointments together. This involvement in the baby's healthcare reinforces the sense of shared responsibility.
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